Love and Marriage

Compiled by Donia Zhang

1. 在天愿作比翼鸟, 在地愿为连理枝。
In heaven, we'd be a pair of lovebirds flying wing to wing;
on earth, we'd be a pair of joint trees growing side by side.
- Bai Juyi, The Song of Everlasting Regret

2. 情人眼里出西施。
Beauty comes from the lover's eye.
(Beauty is in the eye of the beholder)
- Chinese Proverb

3. 家和万事兴。
A harmonious family brings prosperity in all things.
- Chinese Proverb

4. See the world as your self.
Have faith in the way things are.
Love the world as your self.
Then you can care for all things.
- Laozi (c.571-471 BCE), Dao De Jing, Verse 13

5. I was in love with the whole world and all that lived in its rainy arms.
- Louise Erdrich, Love Medicine

6. You are one person to the world;
you are the world to one person.
Love makes the world go round.

7. Love doesn't make the world go round;
love is what makes the ride worthwhile.
- Franklin P. Jones

8. They that love beyond the world cannot be separated by it.
Death cannot kill what never dies.

9. 'Where's home for you?' a stranger asked a fellow traveler.
'Wherever she is,' came the reply, as the man pointed at his wife.
- Robert Fulghum

10. Near and far, near and far, I am happy where you are;
likewise I have never learnt how to be it where you aren't.
- Ogden Nash

11. Needles and pins, needles and pins,
when a man is married his trouble begins.

12. He who sows courtesy reaps friendship,
and he who plants kindness gathers love
- St. Basil

13. Choose a wife rather by your ear than your eye.
The handsomest flower is not the sweetest.

14. The face is the index of the mind.
The eyes are the window of the soul.
(The heart's letter is read in the eyes)

15. An old man in love is like a flower in winter.
- Portuguese Proverb

16. If Jack is in love, he is no judge of Jill's beauty.

17. True romantic love seems to open a lover's eyes
to see the loved one the way God sees that person
- as extraordinary, priceless, like no one else ever created,
as unique with an eternal identity.
- Edward Wheat

18. Love asks faith, and faith asks firmness.
Love is the reward of love.

19. Love me little, love me long.
Love will find a way.

20. Love and business teach eloquence.
Love and lordship like no fellowship.

21. Love is without reason.
Love is never without jealousy.

22. Love is blind.
Love is lawless.
Love laughs at locksmiths.

23. It is impossible to love and to be wise.
- Francis Bacon

24. Love is the wisdom of the fool and the folly of the wise.
- Samuel Johnson

25. Fools rush in where angels fear to tread.
Follow your heart where love takes you.

26. Love is neither bought nor sold.
Love is not found in the market.

27. Love lives in cottages as well as in courts.

28. All is fair in love and war.
Love conquers all.

29. The course of true love never did run smooth.
- William Shakespeare, A Midsummer Night's Dream

30. Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind,
and therefore winged Cupid is painted blind.
- William Shakespeare, A Midsummer Night's Dream

31. Love without return is like a question without an answer.

32. Faults are thick where love is thin.

33. No herb will cure love.
Time cures all things.

34. When love is greatest, words are fewest.
(Whom we love best, to them we can say least.)

35. Love speaks, even when the lips are closed.

36. Whoever of you loves life and desires to see many good days,
keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking lies.
- Psalm 34:12-13

37. Love is not looking in each other's eyes,
but looking together in the same direction.
- Antoine de Saint-Exupey (1900-1944), French novelist

38. When one door of happiness closes, another opens;
but often we look so long at the closed door that
we do not see the one which has been opened for us.
- Helen Keller

39. Love is always open arms.
If you close your arms about love,
you will find that you are left holding only yourself.
- Leo Buscaglia

40. Love can be understood only "from the inside,"
as a language can be understood only by someone who speaks it,
as a world can be understood only by someone who lives in it.
- Robert C. Solomon, Love: Emotions, Myth, and Metaphor

41. More than kisses, letters mingle souls.
- John Donne

42. Absence does for love what the wind does for a flame:
it extinguishes the weak, and feeds the strong.

43. Lovers long to be together...
This happens because they have become bonded emotionally
and now crave that feeling of security and at-home-ness,
which they find only in the other's presence.
- Edward Wheat

44. Lovers don't finally meet somewhere.
They're in each other all along.
To be loved is to live forever in someone's heart.

45. Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.
- Emily Bronte, Wuthering Heights

46. The last suitor wins the maid.

47. When you love someone all your saved-up wishes start coming out.
- Elizabeth Bowen

48. Man proposes, God disposes.
Marriages are made in heaven.

49. Marriage is a wonderful invention;
but, then again, so is a bicycle-repair kit.
- Billy Connolly (1942), Scottish comedian

50. One wonders what would be the effect if the same amount of time,
energy, and money spent on the ceremony was invested in the marriage.
Planning the perfect wedding too often takes precedence over planning a successful marriage.
- Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott

51. I would like to have engraved inside every wedding band BE KIND TO ONE ANOTHER.
This is the Golden Rule of marriage and the secret of making love last through the years.
- Randolph Ray, My Little Church around the Corner

52. Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.
Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.

53. Marriage comes by destiny.
Marriage goes by contrasts.

54. The old saying "opposites attract" is based on the phenomenon that
many individuals are drawn to people who complement them -
who are good at things they are not, who complete them in some way.
- Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott

55. Love is not primarily a relationship to a specific person;
it is an attitude, an orientation of character which determines
the relatedness of a person to the world as a whole,
not towards one 'object' of love...
If I truly love one person I love all persons, I love the world, I love life...
I love through you the world, I love in you also myself.
- Erich Fromm

56. The success of a marriage comes not in finding the "right" person,
but in the ability of both partners adjust to the real person
they inevitably realize they married.
- John Fisher

57. Probably the most widely believed of all the marriage myths is this one:
Marriage will ensure my happiness.
- Bill & Lynne Hybels

58. The belief in a happily-ever-after marriage is one of
the most widely held and destructive marriage myths.
- Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott

59. The calmest husbands make the stormiest wives.

60. It is a good horse that never stumbles,
and a good wife that never grumbles.

61. Take my word for it, the silliest woman can manage a clever man;
but it takes a very clever woman to manage a fool.
- Rudyard Kipling (1865-1936), English writer and poet

62. The recipe for success in marriage is effort plus insight.
- David & Vera Mace

63. Keep your eyes wide open before marriage and half shut afterwards.

64. Our job is to choose to love each other. It's not a feeling.
It's not even passion. Love is a choice that we make.
It's an action that we choose to take toward that person we love.
You aren't in love; you do love.
- Robert & Rosemary Barnes

65. Genuine love is initially an action directed toward fulfilling another person's needs
- Gary Smalley

66. The ideal marriage evolves when the wife concentrates on meeting her husband's needs
and the husband concentrates on meeting his wife's needs.
That combination builds the lasting qualities of a giving relationship.
- Gary Smalley

67. The fulfillment of love hinges on closeness,
sharing, communication, honesty, and support.
- Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott

68. Communication at its best is defined as time spent
opening the doors to one another's innermost self.
- Robert & Rosemary Barnes

69. He that has a wife has a master.
He that tells his wife news is but newly married.
He that has no children knows not what love is.

70. There is no reciprocity:
men love women,
women love children,
children love hamsters.
- Alice Thomas Ellis (1932), English writer

71. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes,
and always perseveres.
Love never fails.
- I Corinthians 13:6-8

72. Love is a choice - not simply, or necessarily, a rational one,
but rather a willingness to be present to others without pretense or guile.
- Carter Heyward, Our Passion for Justice

73. The most human thing we have to do in life is to learn to speak our honest convictions
and feelings and live with the consequences.
This is the first requirement of love.
- Father William Du Bay

74. Knowing is the most profound kind of love,
giving someone the gift of knowledge about yourself.
- Marsha Norman

75. Intimacy has a "best friend" or "soul mate" quality about it.
We all want someone who knows us better than anyone else - and still accepts us.
And we want someone who holds nothing back from us,
someone who trusts us with personal secrets.
Intimacy fills our heart's deepest longings for closeness and acceptance.
- Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott

76. Best friends don't leave when the going gets tough or look to blame you for hard times.
They stick by you and give you the kind of encouragement that comes from not only knowing you well,
but loving you anyway. They don't give up when things look impossible.

77. Trouble is a part of your life, and if you don't share it you don't give the person
who loves you enough chance to love you enough.
- Dinah Shore

78. I learned the real meaning of love: Love is absolute loyalty.
People fade, looks fade, but loyalty never fades.
You can depend so much on certain people; you can set your watch by them.
And that's love, even if it doesn't seem very exciting.
- Sylverster Stallone

79. Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast.
It is not arrogant, it is not rude.
Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;
it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right.
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things,
and endures all things. Love never ends.
- I Corinthians 13:4-8, 13.

80. Some people fall in love with the swiftness and force of an electric shock,
while with others the process is so gradual that the fact is not discovered until
some accident or emergency reveals it to the interior perception.
- Jennie June

81. The Book of Life begins with a man and a woman in a garden.
It ends with Revelation.
- Oscar Wilde

82. Based on hundreds of surveys and thousands of interviews
I would say the overwhelming conclusion is this:
Most men really want to do the right thing.
Men deeply love their wives.
- Patrick Morley

83. My dear fellow, buggers can't be choosers.
- Maurice Bowra (1898-1971), English scholar and literary critic
(on being told he should not marry anyone as plain as his fiance).
*This sentence is altered from an English proverb: "Beggars can't be choosers."

84. The advantage of being married to an archaeologist is that
the older you get, the more interested he becomes in you.
- Agatha Christie (1890-1976), English writer of detective fiction

85. At the top of the list [of what makes a successful marriage],
I think, is a sense of humor.
- Deborah Kerr

86. If love is the answer, could you rephrase the question?
- Lily Tomlin

87. Everyone wants Love to follow them down their road;
where is it that Love wants to go?
- Judy Grahn, The Queen of Swords

88. Love and marriage go together like a horse and carriage.
- Frank Sinatra (1915-1998), lyric in Thornton Wilder's Our Town, 1955

89. Love seasoned with wisdom brims over with delights.
- Bernard of Clairvaux

90. Love's sweetest adventure is the one we will share tomorrow!
- Beth Swanson


Rhymes for Choosing the Wedding Day

Monday for wealth,
Tuesday for health,
Wednesday best of all,
Thursday for losses,
Friday for crosses,
Saturday for no luck at all.

Married when the year is new, he'll be loving, kind and true.
When February birds do mate, you wed nor dread your fate.
If you wed when March winds blow, joy and sorrow both you'll know.
Marry in April when you can, Joy for Maiden and for Man.
Marry in the month of May, and you'll surely rue the day.
Marry when June roses grow, over land and sea you'll go.
Those who in July do wed, must labour for their daily bread.
Whoever wed in August be, many a change is sure to see.
Marry in September's shrine, your living will be rich and fine.
If in October you do marry, love will come but riches tarry.
If you wed in bleak November, only joys will come, remember.
When December snows fall fast, marry and true love will last.

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